One of the most surprising lessons I’ve learned in marriage is how much clearer life becomes when someone who truly loves you holds up a mirror. My husband has this gift of seeing people for who they really are their intentions, their energy, their patterns. Things I often brushed off or excused, he noticed right away.
At first, it wasn’t always easy to accept. When you’ve known someone for years, it’s natural to want to hold on to the version of them you’ve created in your heart. But marriage has taught me that love isn’t about protecting illusions it’s about uncovering truth.
Sometimes the hardest reality to face is that not everyone in your circle is genuinely rooting for you. Some people are present out of habit, convenience, or even quiet resentment. And as painful as that is, it’s freeing to finally see it for what it is.
What I’ve come to realize is this: love doesn’t blind you. It helps you discern who belongs in your corner and who doesn’t. It teaches you to protect your peace and invest your energy in the relationships that truly matter.
I’m grateful to my husband for that clarity. It hasn’t always been easy, but it has been necessary. And the more I lean into this truth, the more space I create for the people and the love that do belong.
Because at the end of the day, peace is too precious to waste on people who don’t honor it
Brittany Odesanya
The Bowed Life 
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